Divine Feminine, I missed you.

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; 

we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

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On getting re-acquainted with my own Spirituality

I am not a religious person.

I was born and raised catholic. Followed the path that my parents carved for me (baptized, First communion and all) until I reached an age where I realized that if I did believe in “something” bigger than myself, I had a really difficult time putting a “name“, a “label“, a “how to“, an “already created ritual and ceremony” that was not what my own “gut feeling”.  Add in the mix some life tragedies and the fact that I was told at my young age to pray to make things better… I found myself rather at lost when things went really sideways and the “better” never happened.

The worse happened. My mother had a terrible ski accident which left her in a wheel chair, her brother succumbed to a brain tumor few years later and my parents went through a painful divorce. It was a lot to take on over such a short period of time. And my prayers never got “answered”.

Well, in those moments when I experience these feelings (betrayed / lost and alone in the world) I have a tendency to slam that door pretty hard. You know, the moment of “I am done now” kind of feeling.  I didn’t want to reject everything about my Catholic experience, I just felt like dissociating myself from this “organization/congregation”. Of course, there are still stories, baseline, fundamental beliefs that I think are part of me.

Fast forward to few years later,  in the end I did not totally slammed the door  on my upbringing as a Catholic, I simply decided to hand pick my own system of beliefs instead of being spoon fed.

In my 20’s, I was working for a PR firm specialized in translating technical and technological works for compagnies like G.E.  Let me tell you that when you translate, texts can be so subjectively interpreted.  This made me realized  after on that if this was true when translating technical documents “at my very small scale”, imagine what to could be and how it could be misinterpreted on a much larger scale, or at a “higher altitude”, if you will when it comes ancien texts or story telling on religious matter. Translations can sometimes be “biased” by so many things : one word in one language has sometimes several different nuances to it in another one or simply doesn’t exist and can’t be translated (for instance the color blue didn’t have a name in ancient times).  For me, it’s all about giving permission.

Permission to interpret a word. Permission to interpret a way to keep the faith. Your faith.

HOW IT CHANGED EVERYTHING

This gave me freedom to think “differently” in many aspects of my life. This was a very important shift of thinking for me. I was given permission to start  looking at both what I believed  but most importantly at the way that I wanted to look at it.

I am all about hybrid. In my beliefs as well.

So, while I still admire the amazing architecture of many churches and cathedrals  – and  I do respect their sacredness – I no longer feel the need to attend church to connect.

I started crafting my “spirituality”. A true patchwork of what was inspiring me + speaking to my heart. I began creating my own altar at my house in Bagnols en Foret, where I used to live at that time. I created my own sacred rituals. Worded my own beliefs into my own songs / mantras. Lots of candles, some rocks and feathers,  some crystals, pictures of loved ones, an angel minimalist statue, an handcrafted wooden Buddha, semi precious stones, some handmade pottery for my insences.

In his book “A religion of One’s own”, Thomas Moore suggests that we could all create our own religion by simply  letting << a new kind of spiritual creativity, in which we no longer decide whether to believe in a given creed and follow a certain tradition blindy. […] Most important , we no longer feel the pressure to choose one tradition over another but rather are able to appreciate many routes to spiritual richness. This new religion is a blend of individual inspiration and inspiring tradition>>.

By trusting my own Spirituality and being aware of signs many things shifted and many good things happened.

I realized that my thoughts and spiritual practices were linked and were opening doors to me. I worked independly for many big events leaving me enough free time to restore my old shepherd house, met the love of my life (we have been together for 13 years now), travelled and lived abroad to the place that speaks to my heart: California.

When I moved to United States from my little stone house in Le Var, many things shifted again. I I was in my 30’s. I left my family and my friends in the South of France. I add to re-root myself but also re-grow some new wings as the lost of beloved mother seriously torn them in bits and pieces.  Some serious spiritual sewing would be necessary to patch my life back together.

The universe had my back and our first little precious baby girl ( now almost 14 years old ) was born few months after my mother passed away. Lack of sleep, lack of time to myself. Very little time to “practice” my spirituality.But I felt totally supported by the magic of the place we were living at that time.  Santa Barbara,California is one place that I call my “spiritual” place.

By letting go and trusting in something bigger than myself,  I met the “right” people, took ‘the right’ art classes. My creativity was going on full speed. After being a Raku potter, a clay sculptor, I followed my instincts and started intuitive mixed media painting.I mean, first small ones and all of the sudden :: huge canvases. Wild strokes + nature bits + discarded objects from the beach. Inspiration was pouring. I was creating many paintings  “intuitively”. It was so meditative. So divinely inspired. I did many shows / sold many of my mixed media artworks /  created an inspirational group of women who I  was “coaching”  on how to be (more) creative. I loved iiiiid. It felt like I was finally  living my life with purpose.

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WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOU FELL OFF YOUR SPIRITUAL WAGON ?

Baby number 2 came along and then, we moved again. Back to France.  Gloops… France ?

I know this sounds “Magnifique” to you but for me it felt like I was moved from First class to coach. Seriously :: not a good feeling. Why ? Well, the main reason why I  left my country (France)  in the first place was because the energy was not aligned with my spirit.

So let me tell you that moving  back  felt like I was going back to square one. Result ? I stopped creating. I was miserable. As much as I tried to make the best  out of it, creatively I was literally flat lining.

Couple of years later ( we ended up staying nearby Paris for 5 years), I realized that I was wasting my talents (oui, exactement, my talents and with an S )and that life was too short. Once again, my spirituality and a bit of law of attraction help me. Creating is my medicine. My way to nurture myself back to life. This is my true belief.

Next ting I know, I decided to launch my handmade brand “Un lieu sur terre ( it means a place on earth, en francais). All screen printed handmade mindful goodies for your home and your soul. Sold some. Got some media attention (magazines and TV shows). All good.

Moved again (no, we are no in the military :  hubby’s corporate promotion).

So all on board:: 2 kids / 240 boxes ( 1/3 of it from my art studio 😉 seriously ) and a feeling of channeling Heidi: Switzerland  here we come!  We are now entering year 5.

Now, well in my 40’s (yep!), mum of now 3 kiddos [an old soul baby boy  who’s now 2 and half years old / a wise soul teen daughter with a high sense of spirituality and fashion / an 10 years old going onto 12, with the energy of wild horses on steroids 🙂 ] simply finding time to nurture both my spirituality and my creativity is a bit of a challenge. So I started practicing what I now call “Soultripping sessions” : a bit of art making with some deep spirituality “roots” to it.

I drew strengths  from my own experience and over the last couple of years I’ve been crafting an e-course called “The Sacred Soultripping Collective“, a 6 week online class with  a mindful & creative approach for traveling life’s transition times : from birth to death, from weddings to divorces, from break-ups to job change or job loss, transitions are fed by life-crises. But a transition is also a place for us to connect with our uniqueness and cultivate the courage to express ourselves fully in this world in spite of our outside circumstances. THE SACRED SOULTRIPPING e-course is the result of my quest for transitioning more gracefully.

My hope for my kids is to understand that it is crucial to believe that the universe has their back. That they need to figure what they love to do, so that in the end they’ll do what they love. It’s so utterly important that they grow up with is a strong sense of believing to ” Cosmos /Spirit / God / Buddha / Universe / Energy fields”.  They can have a way to connect with their own spirituality and create their “own inner religion”.  It does not take much to create meaningful altars  and  create some rituals to stitch their dreams in the fabric of their future. My girls still believe in angels / fairies / spirits from loved ones to show them to look out for some ” good happy signs” . 

We’re cosmic. We all have great cosmic capacities.

It is part of the Divine Feminine.

As a mama:: I need to pass it on.

As an artist :: I need to inspire.

Home is where my heART & spirituality are interwoven.

It’s loud and clear for me now : my art is inspired by my spirituality and vice versa. I must create to nurture myself and refill my love cup.

Back on track.

PS : In my “White Spaces” blog post : I share a lot of tips and why white spaces are  essential to letting go and shine your own light.

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔ 

  • Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit.
  • Rejuvenate yourself with like minded people. Bathe yourself in beauty. Inside. Out.
  • Create a sacred altar within your home :: time to reconnect with yourself, your deep desires and keep them in focus. Write your sacred words / add some meaningful nature inspired forms / a candle or more. Make sure it is in a predominant sacred place of your home  (a Bagua Map is a big help) go see it and honor it everyday .

 

Honoring Woman’s “Rites of Passage” with The Desire Map Workshops & Retreats

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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.

Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

― Rumi

My baby boy just turn One year old few weeks ago.

365 days where Mother Earth rotated around the Sun .

As I reflect back on the year that went by (so quickly), I also feel the importance to welcome and release the fear his first moments being my last ones. His first time drinking out of the bottle being my last time nursing him. His first time (finally) sleeping through the night being my last time walking him endlessly on the balcony at night watching the moon reflecting on the lake.

Once I realized those moments were gone,- blame it on the changes in hormones level – I felt so sad, helpless. Mind you, I am not sad to finally sleep at night, but I feel melancholic about those moments that I may not have treasured “properly”. Those life changes need their very own rituals.  They need to be seen as the stepping stones of our current evolution, seed of our growth. So I did a ritual to welcome the change and let go of the past.

Like many of you, I went through  many massive life changes.

Nothing really life threatening.

Quite possibly life strengthening.

The followings life events were kept private (within the group of closest friends). But I need to release them to be recomposed in the Universe into something better. At age 44, I still carry the burden of some of them and this affects my parenting, my being in this world. Those life changes created a shell, an invisible wall to protect me to not feel pain anymore.  But I now understand better that this is not the way it works.

So here we go: To my fearful inner child, I let go of this event:  age 8 a battle field called divorce (not mine. My parents: me as a young child stuck between ugly battles). Followed by what I  now call  The lost of innocence : a tragic “simple” ski accident that changed for the worse my mum’s life when she was 33 / erased my “traditional” faith in church / turned my life inside out  forever (she ended up in hospital for almost a decade with heavy symptoms and handicaps). To my brave self young adult: at age 30 my chosen expatriation (despite what was calling me to stay) from France to California (my very own first grown up choice. I will do it all over again) But still quite a challenge and massive life change. Age 31:  A double-bind decision (the worse of many)- the one that what ever choice you make,  you lose. My mother asked me  to give her  “permission” to  “let go” of her own life. I can still hear myself saying that I understood and respected her choice (crying writing this).  An almost simultaneous arrival and departure of a “soul” (lost my mother few weeks before getting pregnant with my first born).

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In those difficult  transition times you can hardly see what you truly want as you are mostly driven by fear and anxiety. You need to be re-acquainted to your authentic self. But when you don’t know how- well, you can drift for a long time.

As I said, when my mother past away, I had just moved from France to California to be with my fiance (who became my husband for now 13 years). Our first baby girl was born 10 months after my mum’s funeral. There was so many shots at that time that I could not connect : being a first time mum as I just lost mine was a vulnerable point for me for many years. As an expat and a first time mom, I was trying to connect with like-minded women. Luckily, leaving in the USA  I discovered the power of women circles,  friends and support groups lead me powerful books discoveries. It was a time where I started a journey to re-discover my  muted artist’s voice creating intuitive and mixed media paintings, making “raku” and ceramic wares to celebrate and treasure the union of the handmade with the daily sacred. I was fighting the best I could the layers of  grief,  emptiness, powerless feelings. Thankfully lovingly “covered” by warm layers of love from my father, my husband and my baby girl.

At that time, I often danced between inspired, intuitive bursts of positive and über creative energy when things flowed easily the way I wanted. Or, the complete opposite when grieving felt unbearable and whenever life seemed to “get in my way”, taking all my vital energy and sending me spiraling down an endless road of semi-depression and loads of confusion. Over the years, I also came to understand that grieving is the ground for growth.

I now know that those stages in my woman’s life were ideal period of times to transform my life. In deep.

Transition times are initiation time awaited to be claimed. Time to be bold and face your fears, your dreams, your desires.

We are all at some point in our lives <<Goddesses of the Unfurling Unknown Path>> ahead.

Both welcoming the changes, still mourning the past and dreading the future.

Here’s when synchronicity happened and where Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map came in (along with other life changing books and many aha’s moments).

It was one of the catalysts for the change that I needed.

I realized that I was not a problem to be fixed. 

I understood that I did not have  lost access to yourself. 

I witnessed that I had what I needed inside of me.

WE ARE WORTHY OF YOUR DESIRES AND IF WE COMMIT TO WANTING WHAT WE WANT AND HONORING OUR DESIRES AND PUT THEM AT THE CENTER OF OUR DAILY PLANS, WE WILL RISE UP AND WALK OUR TALK ON OUR MOST PREFERRED TRAIL.

So I wonder : what need to be healed, heard, for you? Have you been practicing rituals to celebrate your your current or past Rites of Passage?

If you are so inclined, please share your story or anything you wish on my Facebook.

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Thank you for your openness and your courage to voice your truth.

UPDATE

I’m currently going through another layer of deep transformation as I transitioning from one status to another. I can’t say much more here and now. But it’s deep and raw. What I wrote one year ago still resonate and vibrate with every cell of my body. I can’t say enough how important it is to honor your life rites of passage.

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK 

  • Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit. 
  • Schedule time for you. Just for you. I started taking a beautiful 10 days Kundalini meditation introduction with #AnnapurnaLiving and I love it so much ! The chanting for me is my favorite part.
  • Try something new. Expand your comfort zone little by little. Raw Food . Meditation. Digital Eco Art Therapy. Be open to signs.
  • If you live on The French Riviera , France: Stay tuned as I am getting ready to release my first Retreats and Workshops serie as a Licensed Desire Map facilitator in this area!

Click on Templeformappingyourdesires  as it is the sacred place to go to register. 

 

Self-love: happy Valentine’s Day to your great self !

 

<<It’s not your job to like me. It is mine. >>

Byron Katie

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self-love (sĕlf′lŭv′)

n.

The instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.

“HAPPY VALENTINE DAY TO ME”

is what you too should say today…

We all need a space for ourselves to feel safe, nourished and creative.

One great way to take care of yourself is to create a space in your home that is nourishing to your heart, mind and soul.

One of my word for this part of the year is:

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Self-Love is also know as self-care.

Self -care is about taking care of ourselves on a regular basis so we can be at our best when helping/ serving / working with others.

It can be anything: cooking / journaling / hiking / reading / knitting/ painting / singing / praying. But also having a manicure / a massage / a coffee with a good friend / But it has to happen on a regular basis. I like using an “app” called “Teuxdeux” to schedule (and remind me) those precious Me-Time during my week. It is very interesting to see how Me time moments can be squished or even brutally crushed under more important tasks like “grocery shopping”, picking up dry cleaning or returning books to the library.

As Marie Forleo says it over and over: when it is not scheduled, it is not happening.

And that works also with Self-Love.

While self-help books all advise building self-love in order to be happy, a surprisingly low number of people truly love themselves. The good news is it’s never too late to begin to love you.

An excellent way to begin to love yourself is to do something loving for you.

 

When you treat yourself with kindness, it makes you feel good.

The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness.

Each loving act, however big or small, is a brick in the foundation of self-love.

Here are some jewels gathered from books and online articles.

From me to you.

Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU!

Self-love involves the following:

  • Self-care.Self-care means you treat yourself just as kindly and thoughtfully as you would anyone else. If you are uncomfortable doing something, then you don’t do it and that’s OK. Just because somebody might be disappointed that you didn’t help him or her, that’s his or her choice to feel that way.
  • Considering your needs.If that means others don’t get all of you, all the time, then that’s also OK. People can learn to adjust and be responsible for themselves.
  • Caring for yourself with the same level of effort that you do for others.That might mean you don’t always fulfill your goal of helping others because you’d prefer to spend time doing something for yourself. That’s not selfish.
  • Accepting yourself for all that you are — both your positive aspects and your human fallibility.You cannot be all good all the time. That’s OK. You can work on self-improvement, but that doesn’t mean you discount the parts of yourself you don’t like as much. Those aspects are still part of your whole.
  • Saying no to others’ requests.That’s OK. You are not totally responsible for everybody else’s needs.

Working toward self-love and acceptance can take time. If you are somebody who has little regard for yourself, then you might want to start with self-like-a-little, working up to self-like. In time, you’ll learn to self-love and accept yourself for all that you are.

The following  is my personal “playlist” (from books / quotes / mentors ) to remind me of the baby steps that I need to take every time I realize that I  am out of synch with  joy / connection / gratitude.

I know that I need to find my way back to MY SOURCE.

1 Nurture yourself.

Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture yourself spiritually by doing meditation.

2 Treat others with love and respect.

Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually, you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude.

3 Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness.

Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways, or make a small donation to a needy person or an unfortunate child.

4 Express yourself: Create art 

Surround yourself with meaningful words or picture that will lift your mood.

You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!

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Thrive on creativity. We are all remarkably creative, but our originality may be stunted by external factors. For example, your job may not allow you to express your true ingenuity. Our imagination allows us to manifest our most brilliant ideas to life if only we can open the inventive doors inside. Incorporate your creative tendencies into everyday life, from the way you dress, speak, decorate your home, etc. Expand your creative potential to reach its peak in time.

 

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5 Learn to let go of past events.

You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

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Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day. 

“I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself. Read them out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them.

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7 Try to look past “material” objects and feelings

We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with, etc. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion, or simply a motive? Sometimes it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.

8 Don’t define yourself by what you’ve done. 

Celebrate your accomplishments, but let go of the things you haven’t done…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (towards the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.

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9 Be who you really are. 

Express yourself, laugh, play, or sing. Be crazy. Don’t be afraid of what others think. They feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it, too.

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10  Trust yourself. 

Don’t just follow other people’s suggestions blindly. Learn to trust who you really are.

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11 Think of five positive words that describe you. 

Try not to use words like ‘pretty’ and ‘nice’. Aim for a nice variety. Take your time and dig deep.

Mine could be:

caring / inventive / reliable  /initiator /communicative.

Your turn.

12 Practice receiving love. To truly love is to be able to receive it.

When someone loves you, does some kind deeds to you, says kind words, gives you gifts, or gives you compliments, embrace it.

Allow yourself to feel the love that has come your way. Know that you are worthy of love.

13 Do what you love. 

Make yourself happy.

What do you love to do?

If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result, you become happier and more loving. Do something you love each day.

When was the last time you did something you truly loved? Our ambition is admirable, but our lives have become so busy that we often dismiss simple pleasures to take care of business. Whether it’s a hobby, talent, or special craft, take thirty minutes out of your day, each day, to practice what nourishes your soul.

Everything can wait while you indulge in your beloved self @unlieusurterre ( and yes, it is  a “tweetable”)

 

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14  Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous. A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love. No one is quite like you. Just be you. Be grateful for being the wonderful you. Do the best you can. Be the best you can and love yourself more. Then, you have more love to give to others.

Recognizing your strongest traits endows you with deep knowledge of the self, a precious tool you can use to cultivate your best assets. Understand what are your shining qualities and showcase them with beaming confidence. Once you acknowledge your strengths, you can raise your standards in all elements of life. The moment you begin to believe that you deserve better is the moment you receive better.

Celebrate your worth. It’s easy to become distracted by potential achievements and neglect past accomplishments. Celebrate your personal triumphs, both big and small, and let every former victory be a fervent reminder that future wins await, too. Don’t be afraid to raise your glass and toast to that amazing person who’s conquered their every challenge: you.

 

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15  Stop trying to be perfect. 

Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect. Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is not failure. Just follow all the steps above, and don’t let anyone’s expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.

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16  Forgive yourself.

 Every one of us makes mistakes — in relationships, finances, personal decisions, and so on. Mistakes can be costly reminders to think before we act, but they are also encompassed by greater lessons. Remembering this can help us forgive our former failures and discern their higher purpose. When we forgive ourselves for our shortcomings we can redirect our attention to new efforts that produce new results.

17 Put yourself first.

There lies beauty in sacrifice. But when you constantly put yourself second, you set up an inevitable pattern of behavior. In time, you settle for second place in more than one area of life. Reevaluate what it means to put yourself first: engaging in your interests, pursuing your ambitions, and ensuring your well-being. Practice this mantra in all difficult situations: If it doesn’t bring me good, it isn’t worth my effort.

Extending too much love to others can leave us lacking in love for ourselves. We must walk the fine line of attending to others and tending to ourselves, all the while never falling second to the needs of another. Because to love ourselves is to know ourselves, and to know ourselves is to recognize the full spectrum of our powers.

Cut out all negative influences. Make a list of the people in your life who have no place being there. You know who they are — those who drain you physically, emotionally, or mentally, who take advantage of you or cause you any form of stagnation. Literally cut your list in half and let this be reflective of the way in which you will trim away these negative influences in real life.

18 Say I love you.

Speak it to yourself every morning; look in a mirror and say “I love you” in a loud voice. We automatically critique, blame, and fault ourselves for nearly everything, rarely acknowledging the things we do well or those we ought to be proud of. Show yourself daily doses of well-deserved appreciation.

Release love to yourself. We hoard our abundant love of the self within us, as if waiting to release it to the right person. In reality this love was meant to be released only to ourselves. Allow your self-love to flow freely by eliminating criticisms, insecurities, and doubts. The attention you should show another person is secondary to the attention you should show yourself. Why wait for someone else to love you when you can love yourself first?

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SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔ 

Time to re-frame your thinking about Valentine’s Day :

  • Make a “Happy Bubble List” : what would you love to do this week.
  • Schedule it. Share about it.  When you share about it: it becomes real and people will help you remembering with their friendly natural questions  (How is your Happy Bubble List going?)
  • Learn to drop the “should” and “must”
  • Enjoy the feeling of being more aligned with yourself

⩔SHARING IS CARING⩔

And I will always try to make it easy to do it for you!

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[Un-ravelling :: to a new year (Part Two)]

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Who stole my white space?

 

It is now the mid-february and most of us fell of the wagon with their inspirational New Year’s Resolutions.

A great tool to keep your mantras in plain sight is making room for visual / spiritual / physical white space.

 

Everyday we can feel this energy being sucked out of us .

Physically // Mentally // Energetically // Spiritually

Who stole my WHITE SPACE  should be  a recurring question  as this is our vital energy.

 

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF LACK OF WHITE SPACE ?

We feel disconnected from our loved ones / from ourselves.

We need room to breathe and expand. A cluttered mind or home is no fertile soil for self growth.

 

Who stole MY white space?

White as in pure.

Space as in living

Space    between   things.

Most admitted answers?

 

Work and everything related to this work

Time on the computer (Social Media : Facebook / Pinterest/ Instagram / emails /  that in the end as really nothing to do with Social).

“Too muchness” : too many things to care for (clothes / toys / chores related to all our belongings + current way of living/dealing with it)

Our daily crazy schedule can be also blamed. Our ever expended to do list can be also held responsible. But who let it happen in the first place? Time to take responsibility for our actions or lack of them.

When u are constantly consuming + caught up with what everyone else is doing, you don’t have time to find your own voice @unlieusurterre (CLICK TO TWEET)

Why is it so important to

MA K E   S P A C E ?

 

WHITE SPACE WILL HELP YOU

CREATE A HARMONIOUS ENVIRONMENT

THAT WILL NURTURE AND SUSTAIN YOU.

To reclaim time.

A need to have longer days OR a need to make days appeared longer?

I realize that I have the whole thing wrong: I keep saying to myself that I need days of 48 hours to accomplish it all.

In reality: I need to make my day appeared longer by enjoying doing most of the things that will unravel during those precious hours.

Learning to say NO and stop being a “crowd pleaser”

Learning to say YES to “me time” to become a nicer person

In times of the glorification of being busy, reclaiming white space can be seen as counter-productive / selfish /new age / irresponsible .

Wondering what  drive those feelings ?  Our dear friend Mister FEAR, my dear.

Time to learn to be BRAVE and EMBRACE the right to say no to overcommitment.

 

To recover et rejoice.

To let room for growth.

Personal / spiritual /professional

Positive energy needs room to breathe and grow.

Focusing on the White Space allows you to tap into that inner creativity that produces results.

 

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A brand new lexicon / vocabulary to make our voice louder :

“No,  thank you.”

“Un-used = un-necessary”

“my home :: my sanctuary”

“It does not have to be perfect to be beautiful :: simply allow white space (mental/spiritual/visual) to flow your day”

 

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To re-focus + re-energize.

 

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Everything is energy and energy needs space to do its  thing and help you keep focus or even better focus with new lenses on. Our belongings have emotions and energy attached them, our thoughts have energy attached to them and starting a new year with old stagnant energy will hinder us.

Create your own ritual: burn smudge sticks / Tibetan incenses / after each clearing and cleaning space to change and maintain the good vibes around you.

Make a list of your old habits the one that no longer sustain you but rather drag you down.

Burn it. Burning paper with those thoughts and words can be so powerful.

Be grateful to this “old” you but also aware that this is no longer what you need

Now envision and write/draw/collage what you would like your home to be for your soul:: connect with your deep self. I give many examples in Un-ravelling (Part One) . By clearing off and letting go your old self / the objects / belonging that no longer help you grow, you leave plenty room for new opportunities and come and shine.

I personally do this on a regular basis I am a believer in space clearing and creating a home for my soul. I believe in sacred space.

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The principles of “White Space”

 

White space is a term used mostly  in web design. But its meaning can be applied to help us create that harmony our soul crave to grow :

<<White space in a design is the spaces around elements in the design to help them stand out or separate from the other elements.>>

The human mind and modern way of life make us believe that White Space is empty space and it has to be filled to the brim.

 

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But allowing white space to be part of our environment will give us a sense of :

  • a clearer mind not taken away by clutter or too muchness around us
  • simili- luxury as in peace of mind/ less stress
  • breathing room to think  / rest / imagine / relax
  • improved life balance by enjoying  the view of  visual space that create and sustain a peaceful atmosphere.
  • more emphasis on what really matter to us

 

 

The best thing of all : when you focus on white space it will let you shine your personality

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔ 

Time to re-think your old “you” and clear space every where you possibly can !

  • Professionally : calendar / to do list (with actionable verbs in them) / bits size manageable emails in your inbox
  • Visually : closets / belongings  :: do one area AT a time no more and get the give away boxes in the trunck of your car to make sure you will deal with them within few days only. There are many, many  books that will help you with this task that can seem Dantesque for many of us.  Borrow them from friends / local library! No need to buy them all and clutter your home some more 😉
  • Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / erase your “toxic relations” (es, them, you know exactly who they are) from your contacts. Once and for all / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit.
  • Create a sacred altar within your home :: time to reconnect with yourself, your deep desires and keep them in focus. Write your sacred words / add some meaningful nature inspired forms / a candle. Make sure it is in a predominant sacred place of your home to see it and honor it everyday .

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⩔SHARING IS CARING⩔

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Un-ravelling :: to a new year (Part One)


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TO UN.RA.VEL

1. a. To undo or ravel the knitted fabric of.
b. To separate (entangled threads).
2. To separate and clarify the elements of (something mysterious or baffling); solve.

On January the 19th, I transitioned from 42 to 43 year old.

Just a number out there.

A silly two digit number that to me feels a little different this time.

Time for some real change

Time to reflect deeper on why I am on this planet, besides taking care of our expending family.

I am happy to be a mama.

But I  deeply know and therefore want/need “more”.

“More” in a sense of more spiritually connected.

More than ever need to nurture and develop my self awareness /

my consciousness to my leadership skills /

My soul need to shine ever more who I am and take it out to the world. Further more.

My soul need to unravel the fabric of my  life to discover more of my inner wisdom.

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That need to start TODAY.

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“The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself.”—Deepak Chopra

 

And today will be  a longer post.

We will be talking about unravelling the fabrics of our lives.

So grab a cup of Chai tea, make yourself cozy and …. enjoy

I “missed” 3 weeks of posting with the Holiday season and a growing belly requiring me to simply lay down and read or sleep…

But I am  here now and I have a lot to share.

 

And for some of you that need to go to the “bottom of the matter”, right away:

{Discover my core desire feelings all the way down the page. Beautiful pictures with my words  that you can pin for your own inspiration. I share also with you my “soul playlist” that help me connect with those feelings}

FOR THE RUSHED SOULS

(some days are just more packed than others. I totally understand)

JUST KEEP SCROLLING !

SCROLLING!

SCROLLING !

until you come across the word “Nourished”

😉

 

FOR THE CARPE DIEM SOULS : 

GRAB YOUR TEA,  RELAX AND TAKE YOUR TIME TO READ, COMMENT AND SHARE.

 

A new year has just started.

EXHALE.

But we know the drill: on the beginning of every year we face the challenge of the [insert your choices] : dreaded / welcomed / silly / useful time of our resolutions for the new year to come.

  • What do I want to put out in the world this year?
  • What are my “projects”? Or “intuitive big or little desires”? It is usually both personal and business related.

We all have our techniques  [vision boards, meditation, creative  visualization, list on paper or digitally with the help of  so many apps].

We are all full of hopes and possibilities <<This time, I will…>>and usually by March we are back in square one…

It turns out there is a science behind “New Year Resolution”.

To be honest with you, I stopped taking New Year Eve resolutions many years ago, as I found them meaningless and depressing!

They were all falling short. Like an empty promise to yourself. My list were usually too long and not sustainable in the end. By the end of February I was usually totally off of the wagon. Life caught up and my first attempt to make me feel good was making me feel like a failure… Not so good.

I could tell that I needed somehow a “filter” to help out not feeling like a failure and still enjoying the natural process of having dreams for the new year to unfold.

I was looking into spiritual ways to get there. Creating altars, mini shrines, writing my dreams on paper and having  minimalist but meaningful rituals to sent them out to the “Universe” somehow.

This was all in my “B.C.” years (read: Before Children). Besides finding goals settings depressing on the long run,  I  also became a maman and somehow those rituals were slowly being replaced by others (bathing/feeding/caring/nursing/rocking…).

I was [temporarily] not the centre of my  own universe any more.

Few years back, as my children were at an age where things get more manageable and where they also could “participate”, I tried to re-implement some of those new years resolution rituals. I am a believer in the Waldorf philosophy so we used to have Waldorf activities our new year days. We made mini boats  with walnut shells, and set sail at night time with tea candle on mini island made with upside down  cereals bowl : all of this fitting nicely in a big plastic tub…  It is a great activity for little ones as they are ask to say  “wish/fortune” that will be written on the sail.

A premise of “goals with soul”… Or finding  the contour of your life purpose…

It is never too young to start asking some philosophical questions…

 

Fast forward years later : a year ago  I start shifting my thinking  again about New Year Resolutions when I came across  a book called  “The Desire Map” from Danielle Laporte.

Her way of dealing with “goals setting” has been said to be revolutionary by so  many people and media. I love the energy and creativity of this beautiful talented woman. She is so inspiring in so many ways.

As I was reading it along with her first book  I remember something in the same vein that I have been reading also  “many moons”  ago (in 2002 to be precise when the book was published) in a great book called “Moon Mother / Moon daughter : Myths and rituals that celebrate a girl’s coming of age“. You may or may not have read it. If not, let me introduce you to it.

 Moon Mother / Moon Daughter by Janet Lucy and Terri Allison.

I re-open this book after all those years, on January 1st 2014,  as I was  in my New Year cleaning/sorting-out-fever (probably also due to the pregnancy well know symptoms called “nesting”) but also to make mental and physical white space around me: more on this in the next week post).

But as always, -I should know it by now-,  books don’t fall upon my lap “by mistake”. This happens in my life quite often whenever I need them to read/re-read them. As by Esther and Jerry Hicks says it : <<Ask and it is given>>.  I sometimes need to remind myself to trust the Universe a lot more.  Hello,  Ser·en·dip·i·ty ! I have been missing you.

I needed to re-read this book for two reasons ::

1/ our older daughter is entering adolescence in her pre-teen years.

2/ the confirmation [if needed], that I was on the right track with simplifying my new year resolutions thanks to great minds like Danielle Laporte and Janet Lucy + Terri Allison.

In her first chapter she talks about “Moon Wisdom” and how she taught her daughter and her friends around the Winter Solstice to have a more meaningful Holiday and celebrate the end of a year and the beginning of a new one : She wrote

<< We planned to plant seeds of intention to represent this new year >> (page 11). She says << Since Christmas time is about wish lists, I decided to borrow from this theme (…) I invites them to make a list of anything they would love to do, be, have.>>One of the girl in the assistance asked a very interesting question << CAN IT BE A FEELING?>> (Page 12)

The author goes on with an great example :

<<Let’s say I wish for a sporty little car (…) it is more about what the car represents for me (…) being carefree,  free spirited >> (Page 13) It turns out that the teenage girls <<loved finding the essentials meanings behind their words and pretty soon they all had a clear understanding of the deeper desires behind their wishes>>.

Bingo ! << If they focused on the essence rather than the specific form, their wishes might show up in many unexpected way>> (page 13)

In a word:: you don’t find your purpose but your purpose finds you through your passion, your desire .  DO WHAT YOU LOVE DOING : these are your new year’s goals and purposes!

This is what Danielle Laporte calls “CORE DESIRED FEELINGS” or CDF for the insiders and dear followers of Danielle Laporte !

As Danielle writes it :

<<You’re not chasing the goal itself, you’re actually chasing a feeling.>>

 

AND MY CORE DESIRE FEELINGS RIGHT NOW ARE: 

 

Nourished :

My need to be even more eco-focused / eco-minded / self cared.

 

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My great soul mates “PLAYLIST”  for NOURISHED:

Kris Karr /

Green Sisterhood /

Food News

FoodBabe /

ZeroWasteHome /

Skin Deep /

(to find out mean ingredients in your beauty products)

Sleep /

WANDERLUST

My need to be nomad all over again to connect to my inner wisdom.

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My great soul mates “PLAYLIST”  for WANDERLUST:

 

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(I am fine, thanks – movie trailer)

Worldette /

Living off the grid /

Live your calling /

 

Numinous :

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    My great soul mates “PLAYLIST”  for Numinous:

     The Female Grail /

    Danielle Laporte /

    Catherine Just /

    Abraham Hicks /

    Byron Katie /

    Eckhart Tolle /

    SuperSoulSunday /

     

    Raw & Bold

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    Connect with who you deeply are.

     

My great souls “PLAYLIST”  for Raw & Bold:

Brenee Brown /

Danielle Laporte /

Mastin Kipp /

Sally Hogshead /

 

Inspiring

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  1. fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, esp. to do something creative.
  2. create (a feeling, esp. a positive one) in a person. Inspiring people through my own creativity.
  3. animate someone with (such a feeling).

My great souls “PLAYLIST”  for Inspiring:

Danielle Laporte /

Catherine Just /

Ted Talks /

 

 

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK

We all want to learn how to trust the direction of what you are here to share with the world comes from what inspires you most and make you feel the best possible you. Walk your talk and inspire others.

  • What do you love to do?
  • What brings you joy?
  • What can I do that I love doing to serve others?
  • Give yourself permission to start from a clean slate and start all over
  • Find few words to guide your journey and your “desires” for the year.

Lots of tools out there!

My favorites besides Danielle Laporte books are:

 Do what you love and her great free Pdf for 2014 //

For word lovers :: A little word //

For photo lovers : In plain sight //

 

Psst #1:

your purpose does not need to be a business related, as we usually go for right away.  It could just be “simply” being a great human being/friend/sister/mother. 

 

Psst #2:

pick only ONE tool or TWO at the most if you don;t want to be  overwhelmed and back to Square One at feeling like a failure again…

You don’t have to make it all happen now. Take simple steps to re-align your growth and your trust to own your “power”.

 

 

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<< Remember that you will at time loose connection with your inner guide.

Once stepping on a spiritual path, it is about the journey and  the daily repetition / mantra .>>

Keep them on focus

SHARING IS CARING

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PLEASE STAY TUNE FOR PART TWO FOR NEXT WEEK :

I will go deeper into how to create WHITE SPACE around you to support your daily mantras.

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Minimalist with soul: celebrating Christmas in a mindful organic modern way.

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 The spirit of wabi-sabi  & simplicity can feed both our souls and memories.Reverence and respect for things that are handmade ;  finding new meaning and purpose for discarded objects ; and the presence of nothing more than is necessary, meaningful or beautiful (and the wisdom to know the difference) are defining elements of a wabi sabi.

Christmas is just around the corner. But, pretty please first take a deep breathe with me and feel a sense of calm.

Relax your mind and re-center on the moment.

I know you likely have a to-do-list that goes to the moon and back : but try to think about Christmas / Winter Solstice time in a much less agitated way. Recenter on the way you want to feel and experience this celebrating moments rather than follow the craziness around you.

This post will help you create a more meaningful way of hosting your guests and bringing soul to your Christmas / New Year Eve table setting. Time to create your own personal Holiday Spirit !

To make things easy for you I rounded up some simple ideas that are festive yet bring mindfulness with an organic modern  look to help inspire you.

This year dare the mindful  minimalist organic table look !

It is ALL about understanding what TRULY winter is.

Three words:

NATURE, SIMPLE & HOMEY

Once again, Scandinavian and Wabi Sabi will be my guide for this table stetting eye candy  special blog post.

Wabi-sabi is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection and insight from nature. Wabi (harmony) and sabi (simplicity) chooses humility over ostentation, asceticism over extravagance. When you embrace this way of living, you naturally choose handmade / vintage objects made with wood, clay or textiles over those manufactured with plastic.

Reverence and respect for things that are hand crafted ; finding new meaning and purpose for discarded objects : this is what Wabi Sabi is all about.

Sadly, by looking at people shopping around me these days, you can tell that some kind of Christmas fever caught on fire for the past 3 weeks : multitude of holiday-themed paraphernalia and more plastic and  soul deprived objects than I could even imagined (and I did not dare to venture in toys stores).

In the story of Stuffs, Annie Leonard writes in this blog post about “Reclaiming the Holidays”

“Minimalist Holiday Celebration with Soul is experienced, hand made, home cooked rather than purchased.
It helps us to create a “white space” in our hearts, minds and calendars in order to experience this lovely time of the year.
But let’s not  forget to let our own personality shine through!
Bring on your creativity and your out-of the-box-thinking!”

This should also reflects in our home and on our festive table.

How do you incorporate rustic or reclaimed materials into your home?

Easily as long as you are ready for a bit of a mind shift if you this has not been your traditional way of celebrating so far.

As I mentioned in this blog post “, all we need need is tune in with Mother nature around us and bring some of her simple beauty and colors inside.

Both Wabi Sabi and Scandinavian consist of rustic beauty, for things both manmade and natural and to the idea that things become more beautiful and valuable over time. Cracks in the rough grain of a wood tabletop and natural hardwoods; the asymmetry and irregularity of mix-matched vintage chairs; and soft, earth-toned paint palettes are imperfectly perfect examples of the wabi sabi style.

Worn, weathered decorative pieces full with personal meaning; ornamentation reclaimed directly from Mother Nature ; and an eternal sense of modesty and humility that gives a living space a special intimacy . This season, let’s embrace the mindful wabi sabi way of design and table setting.

COMBINE PAIRED BACK AESTHETIC OF MODERN MINIMALISM

WITH THE CONSIDERED WAY OF LIVING

FROM THE WABI SABI PHILOSOPHY

In a nutshell, you will:

Candles /old crates (wintertime is the perfect time for candle light therapy)

Tree branches / pine cones / red berries / small trees

Terracota / ceramics / vintage touches (family heirloom)

Wooden table / mixed cozy chairs (and yes even Ikea…!)

Earth tone colors palette, grey +white+ black accents.

 
 

SOME RESOURCES TO INSPIRE

YOU SO YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME.

LIVE MORE SIMPLY / FIND BEAUTY IN EVERY DAY LIFE / MAKE THOUGHTFUL CHOICES / ENHANCE YOUR LIFE

 

 

 

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SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK

What part of Holiday Seasons (Winter Solstice/ Christmas/New year Eve) can you improve?

  • Is it cooking from scratch some family recipe with very few ingredients only bought at the farmer’s market?
  • Is it re-using, “tinkering”, “hacking’ complicated, expensive, stressful  family traditions for your table setting and your meal planning?
  • Is it lovingly teaching your family and children that this year you are going to try have a greener and more soulful Celebration time  ? 
  • And remember from  a previous post  about the value of the Wabi Sabi philosophy :

<< When the Japanese mend broken objects, they believe that when something suffered damage and has  a history,  it becomes more beautiful>>

SHARING IS CARING

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