We are not human beings having a spiritual experience;
we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
On getting re-acquainted with my own Spirituality
I am not a religious person.
I was born and raised catholic. Followed the path that my parents carved for me (baptized, First communion and all) until I reached an age where I realized that if I did believe in “something” bigger than myself, I had a really difficult time putting a “name“, a “label“, a “how to“, an “already created ritual and ceremony” that was not what my own “gut feeling”. Add in the mix some life tragedies and the fact that I was told at my young age to pray to make things better… I found myself rather at lost when things went really sideways and the “better” never happened.
The worse happened. My mother had a terrible ski accident which left her in a wheel chair, her brother succumbed to a brain tumor few years later and my parents went through a painful divorce. It was a lot to take on over such a short period of time. And my prayers never got “answered”.
Well, in those moments when I experience these feelings (betrayed / lost and alone in the world) I have a tendency to slam that door pretty hard. You know, the moment of “I am done now” kind of feeling. I didn’t want to reject everything about my Catholic experience, I just felt like dissociating myself from this “organization/congregation”. Of course, there are still stories, baseline, fundamental beliefs that I think are part of me.
Fast forward to few years later, in the end I did not totally slammed the door on my upbringing as a Catholic, I simply decided to hand pick my own system of beliefs instead of being spoon fed.
In my 20’s, I was working for a PR firm specialized in translating technical and technological works for compagnies like G.E. Let me tell you that when you translate, texts can be so subjectively interpreted. This made me realized after on that if this was true when translating technical documents “at my very small scale”, imagine what to could be and how it could be misinterpreted on a much larger scale, or at a “higher altitude”, if you will when it comes ancien texts or story telling on religious matter. Translations can sometimes be “biased” by so many things : one word in one language has sometimes several different nuances to it in another one or simply doesn’t exist and can’t be translated (for instance the color blue didn’t have a name in ancient times). For me, it’s all about giving permission.
Permission to interpret a word. Permission to interpret a way to keep the faith. Your faith.
HOW IT CHANGED EVERYTHING
This gave me freedom to think “differently” in many aspects of my life. This was a very important shift of thinking for me. I was given permission to start looking at both what I believed but most importantly at the way that I wanted to look at it.
I am all about hybrid. In my beliefs as well.
So, while I still admire the amazing architecture of many churches and cathedrals – and I do respect their sacredness – I no longer feel the need to attend church to connect.
I started crafting my “spirituality”. A true patchwork of what was inspiring me + speaking to my heart. I began creating my own altar at my house in Bagnols en Foret, where I used to live at that time. I created my own sacred rituals. Worded my own beliefs into my own songs / mantras. Lots of candles, some rocks and feathers, some crystals, pictures of loved ones, an angel minimalist statue, an handcrafted wooden Buddha, semi precious stones, some handmade pottery for my insences.
In his book “A religion of One’s own”, Thomas Moore suggests that we could all create our own religion by simply letting << a new kind of spiritual creativity, in which we no longer decide whether to believe in a given creed and follow a certain tradition blindy. […] Most important , we no longer feel the pressure to choose one tradition over another but rather are able to appreciate many routes to spiritual richness. This new religion is a blend of individual inspiration and inspiring tradition>>.
By trusting my own Spirituality and being aware of signs many things shifted and many good things happened.
I realized that my thoughts and spiritual practices were linked and were opening doors to me. I worked independly for many big events leaving me enough free time to restore my old shepherd house, met the love of my life (we have been together for 13 years now), travelled and lived abroad to the place that speaks to my heart: California.
When I moved to United States from my little stone house in Le Var, many things shifted again. I I was in my 30’s. I left my family and my friends in the South of France. I add to re-root myself but also re-grow some new wings as the lost of beloved mother seriously torn them in bits and pieces. Some serious spiritual sewing would be necessary to patch my life back together.
The universe had my back and our first little precious baby girl ( now almost 14 years old ) was born few months after my mother passed away. Lack of sleep, lack of time to myself. Very little time to “practice” my spirituality.But I felt totally supported by the magic of the place we were living at that time. Santa Barbara,California is one place that I call my “spiritual” place.
By letting go and trusting in something bigger than myself, I met the “right” people, took ‘the right’ art classes. My creativity was going on full speed. After being a Raku potter, a clay sculptor, I followed my instincts and started intuitive mixed media painting.I mean, first small ones and all of the sudden :: huge canvases. Wild strokes + nature bits + discarded objects from the beach. Inspiration was pouring. I was creating many paintings “intuitively”. It was so meditative. So divinely inspired. I did many shows / sold many of my mixed media artworks / created an inspirational group of women who I was “coaching” on how to be (more) creative. I loved iiiiid. It felt like I was finally living my life with purpose.
WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOU FELL OFF YOUR SPIRITUAL WAGON ?
Baby number 2 came along and then, we moved again. Back to France. Gloops… France ?
I know this sounds “Magnifique” to you but for me it felt like I was moved from First class to coach. Seriously :: not a good feeling. Why ? Well, the main reason why I left my country (France) in the first place was because the energy was not aligned with my spirit.
So let me tell you that moving back felt like I was going back to square one. Result ? I stopped creating. I was miserable. As much as I tried to make the best out of it, creatively I was literally flat lining.
Couple of years later ( we ended up staying nearby Paris for 5 years), I realized that I was wasting my talents (oui, exactement, my talents and with an S )and that life was too short. Once again, my spirituality and a bit of law of attraction help me. Creating is my medicine. My way to nurture myself back to life. This is my true belief.
Next ting I know, I decided to launch my handmade brand “Un lieu sur terre“ ( it means a place on earth, en francais). All screen printed handmade mindful goodies for your home and your soul. Sold some. Got some media attention (magazines and TV shows). All good.
Moved again (no, we are no in the military : hubby’s corporate promotion).
So all on board:: 2 kids / 240 boxes ( 1/3 of it from my art studio 😉 seriously ) and a feeling of channeling Heidi: Switzerland here we come! We are now entering year 5.
Now, well in my 40’s (yep!), mum of now 3 kiddos [an old soul baby boy who’s now 2 and half years old / a wise soul teen daughter with a high sense of spirituality and fashion / an 10 years old going onto 12, with the energy of wild horses on steroids 🙂 ] simply finding time to nurture both my spirituality and my creativity is a bit of a challenge. So I started practicing what I now call “Soultripping sessions” : a bit of art making with some deep spirituality “roots” to it.
I drew strengths from my own experience and over the last couple of years I’ve been crafting an e-course called “The Sacred Soultripping Collective“, a 6 week online class with a mindful & creative approach for traveling life’s transition times : from birth to death, from weddings to divorces, from break-ups to job change or job loss, transitions are fed by life-crises. But a transition is also a place for us to connect with our uniqueness and cultivate the courage to express ourselves fully in this world in spite of our outside circumstances. THE SACRED SOULTRIPPING e-course is the result of my quest for transitioning more gracefully.
My hope for my kids is to understand that it is crucial to believe that the universe has their back. That they need to figure what they love to do, so that in the end they’ll do what they love. It’s so utterly important that they grow up with is a strong sense of believing to ” Cosmos /Spirit / God / Buddha / Universe / Energy fields”. They can have a way to connect with their own spirituality and create their “own inner religion”. It does not take much to create meaningful altars and create some rituals to stitch their dreams in the fabric of their future. My girls still believe in angels / fairies / spirits from loved ones to show them to look out for some ” good happy signs” .
We’re cosmic. We all have great cosmic capacities.
It is part of the Divine Feminine.
As a mama:: I need to pass it on.
As an artist :: I need to inspire.
Home is where my heART & spirituality are interwoven.
It’s loud and clear for me now : my art is inspired by my spirituality and vice versa. I must create to nurture myself and refill my love cup.
Back on track.
PS : In my “White Spaces” blog post : I share a lot of tips and why white spaces are essential to letting go and shine your own light.
⩔SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔
- Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit.
- Rejuvenate yourself with like minded people. Bathe yourself in beauty. Inside. Out.
- Create a sacred altar within your home :: time to reconnect with yourself, your deep desires and keep them in focus. Write your sacred words / add some meaningful nature inspired forms / a candle or more. Make sure it is in a predominant sacred place of your home (a Bagua Map is a big help) go see it and honor it everyday .
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
My baby boy just turn One year old few weeks ago.
365 days where Mother Earth rotated around the Sun .
As I reflect back on the year that went by (so quickly), I also feel the importance to welcome and release the fear his first moments being my last ones. His first time drinking out of the bottle being my last time nursing him. His first time (finally) sleeping through the night being my last time walking him endlessly on the balcony at night watching the moon reflecting on the lake.
Once I realized those moments were gone,- blame it on the changes in hormones level – I felt so sad, helpless. Mind you, I am not sad to finally sleep at night, but I feel melancholic about those moments that I may not have treasured “properly”. Those life changes need their very own rituals. They need to be seen as the stepping stones of our current evolution, seed of our growth. So I did a ritual to welcome the change and let go of the past.
Like many of you, I went through many massive life changes.
Nothing really life threatening.
Quite possibly life strengthening.
The followings life events were kept private (within the group of closest friends). But I need to release them to be recomposed in the Universe into something better. At age 44, I still carry the burden of some of them and this affects my parenting, my being in this world. Those life changes created a shell, an invisible wall to protect me to not feel pain anymore. But I now understand better that this is not the way it works.
So here we go: To my fearful inner child, I let go of this event: age 8 a battle field called divorce (not mine. My parents: me as a young child stuck between ugly battles). Followed by what I now call The lost of innocence : a tragic “simple” ski accident that changed for the worse my mum’s life when she was 33 / erased my “traditional” faith in church / turned my life inside out forever (she ended up in hospital for almost a decade with heavy symptoms and handicaps). To my brave self young adult: at age 30 my chosen expatriation (despite what was calling me to stay) from France to California (my very own first grown up choice. I will do it all over again) But still quite a challenge and massive life change. Age 31: A double-bind decision (the worse of many)- the one that what ever choice you make, you lose. My mother asked me to give her “permission” to “let go” of her own life. I can still hear myself saying that I understood and respected her choice (crying writing this). An almost simultaneous arrival and departure of a “soul” (lost my mother few weeks before getting pregnant with my first born).
In those difficult transition times you can hardly see what you truly want as you are mostly driven by fear and anxiety. You need to be re-acquainted to your authentic self. But when you don’t know how- well, you can drift for a long time.
As I said, when my mother past away, I had just moved from France to California to be with my fiance (who became my husband for now 13 years). Our first baby girl was born 10 months after my mum’s funeral. There was so many shots at that time that I could not connect : being a first time mum as I just lost mine was a vulnerable point for me for many years. As an expat and a first time mom, I was trying to connect with like-minded women. Luckily, leaving in the USA I discovered the power of women circles, friends and support groups lead me powerful books discoveries. It was a time where I started a journey to re-discover my muted artist’s voice creating intuitive and mixed media paintings, making “raku” and ceramic wares to celebrate and treasure the union of the handmade with the daily sacred. I was fighting the best I could the layers of grief, emptiness, powerless feelings. Thankfully lovingly “covered” by warm layers of love from my father, my husband and my baby girl.
At that time, I often danced between inspired, intuitive bursts of positive and über creative energy when things flowed easily the way I wanted. Or, the complete opposite when grieving felt unbearable and whenever life seemed to “get in my way”, taking all my vital energy and sending me spiraling down an endless road of semi-depression and loads of confusion. Over the years, I also came to understand that grieving is the ground for growth.
I now know that those stages in my woman’s life were ideal period of times to transform my life. In deep.
Transition times are initiation time awaited to be claimed. Time to be bold and face your fears, your dreams, your desires.
We are all at some point in our lives <<Goddesses of the Unfurling Unknown Path>> ahead.
Both welcoming the changes, still mourning the past and dreading the future.
Here’s when synchronicity happened and where Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map came in (along with other life changing books and many aha’s moments).
It was one of the catalysts for the change that I needed.
I realized that I was not a problem to be fixed.
I understood that I did not have lost access to yourself.
I witnessed that I had what I needed inside of me.
WE ARE WORTHY OF YOUR DESIRES AND IF WE COMMIT TO WANTING WHAT WE WANT AND HONORING OUR DESIRES AND PUT THEM AT THE CENTER OF OUR DAILY PLANS, WE WILL RISE UP AND WALK OUR TALK ON OUR MOST PREFERRED TRAIL.
So I wonder : what need to be healed, heard, for you? Have you been practicing rituals to celebrate your your current or past Rites of Passage?
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Thank you for your openness and your courage to voice your truth.
I’m currently going through another layer of deep transformation as I transitioning from one status to another. I can’t say much more here and now. But it’s deep and raw. What I wrote one year ago still resonate and vibrate with every cell of my body. I can’t say enough how important it is to honor your life rites of passage.
⩔SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔
- Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit.
- Schedule time for you. Just for you. I started taking a beautiful 10 days Kundalini meditation introduction with #AnnapurnaLiving and I love it so much ! The chanting for me is my favorite part.
- Try something new. Expand your comfort zone little by little. Raw Food . Meditation. Digital Eco Art Therapy. Be open to signs.
- If you live on The French Riviera , France: Stay tuned as I am getting ready to release my first Retreats and Workshops serie as a Licensed Desire Map facilitator in this area!
Click on Templeformappingyourdesires as it is the sacred place to go to register.
WHY I TRANSFORMED “NATURE TABLE” INSPIRED FROM WALDORF PHILOSOPHY INTO MINI SPIRITUAL ALTARS THROUGHOUT OUR HOME.
Our daughters went through Waldorf schools during their Kindergarten years and I was fascinated by what they called “The Nature Table ” or “The nature corner”. Those little vignettes are a very artful way of arranging a seasonal tableau with bits of Nature and handmade dolls made with cotton, felted wool and wood. They celebrate the spirit of the season. It’s the place in your home or classroom where you can follow the natural cycle of the year. It’s also a powerful way to connect with your inner world and “meditate” through peaceful vibes and connect with your higher self.
When our girls where little we had our nature table on a low up-cycled coffee table. Then, it gravitated on some shelves with some gnomes and fairies in the mix among rocks and driftwoods from our beach walks in California, gemstones from my mom, a big crystal rock my husband collected on a hike when he was 8 years old.
To be honest when we moved to Switzerland, we have not be as “committed” to our nature corner as we did in the past. But now at age 10 and almost 14, the girls are old enough to have their own little altars in their room to meditate, pray, think, be inspired, re-connect.
So our Nature corner is becoming a spiritual corner. What I enjoy the most is the symbolism involved in the ritual. Their own altar is a canvas for their soul to expand and let their light shine to help them write their future.
It’s very easy to do. No perfection need. Just bring your imagination to the table. Literally.
- Gather meaningful (with positive stories infused) rocks, pine cones, fallen leaves, feathers, stones, crystals, images of loved ones or the divinity or god you worship trinkets that are meaningful for you, a vase for some fresh flowers or a purifying air plant, real or fake candles (no need to burn the house down if this is not safe enough where you have your altar…)
⩔SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔
- Find your sacred corner : it could be as big and decadent as a whole room if you fancy or as small and minimalist, possibly “Wabi Sabi” as a cubby hole, a mini shelf, a little wooden box .
- Schedule time for you. Just for you. Sage your sacred space. Be clear on a simple intention (having a joyful day / meeting the right person / not being stress during your job interview, etc.) Light a candle and some of your favorite incenses (be mindful of their components as some are made with toxic ingredients and create toxic fumes. / Repeat your Core Desired Feelings if you know them. Or repeat the sacred Mantra SA TA NA MA which is the foundational Kundalini chant. It’s Sanskrit for birth, life, death, rebirth. And you end it with <<May the long time sun shine upon you // All love surround you // And the pure light within you // Guide your way home>>. I love using the Headspace app on my phone because it’s easy, very simple, in plain langage. Now if you like angelic music in the background and ethereal voice effect, this may not what you are looking for. It’s a kind and calm male voice. No music. No woo woo fluffy imaginary. There’s a free trial to see if you like it anyway ! 🙂 And I don’t make any money on this !
Eleven years from now I was giving birth to our very first sweet baby girl.
With her beautiful chubby cute face and dimpled bottom, a lack of knowledge and a no longer living mum to ask what to do -, came a wild series of questions and way too many baby equipment. As for cloth diapering : the idea was raised but we never followed suit. So we did our fair share of adding more diapers to the land fields …
Luckily my Californian life period of time allowed me came across Laura Sobell and her fantastic puzzling titled book “Save your Baby: throw away your equipment”.
I did not throw it away. We gave it away. And we entered into the world of learning how to soothe my poor colicky baby. I learned the art of Swaddling / the art of making our own baby hammock / the art of ‘wearing my baby”/
Eight years ago was for our second child. We were a little more experienced parents and we knew better than being every new things form the store. We were happily repurposing the clothes form the big sister and knew more what we liked and disliked. In for the Waldorf philosophy and the unfinished natural materials toys, out for the noisy and flashy plastic toys, for instance. I was getting ready to cloth diapering (especially since a local company decided to make things easier for all mamas with a cloth diapering laundry pick up and drop off service! How cool was that!!)
Few months ago we welcome our third baby. A boy. This time I knew that I was going to go with mostly hand me downs, second hands and organics, fair trade minimalist equipment. And this time we will be cloth diapering will be in our future!
Our daily life for baby boy is fairly simple but yet demanding 🙂
Nursing / babywaering / sleeping (a little) / nursing / bathing / cloth diapering /
(this cute baby is not ours…He came with the commercial picture 😉 )
My bare essentials for 0 to 3 months old:
- Nature Sway baby hammock (bought it new for security reason)
- ByKay baby carrier (or similar = hand me down)
- Cloth diapers (all bought second hand locally or on French and Swiss equivalent to Craiglist)
- Baby clothes are all hand me down / Birth gifts / hand made.
- Stokke stroller (second hand bought 65% off the regular price on swiss version of Craiglist !)
- Car seat (bought new for security reasons)
- LOVE & PATIENCE
- Lots of liquid (fennel tea, yummy!), plain old water and green juices for the nursing mum!
Now, you can also make your own baby carriers. There are many tutorials on Youtube and such. You can also find your favorite handmade one on Etsy. The same can apply to cloth diapering and baby clothes.
<<It’s not your job to like me. It is mine. >>
The instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.
“HAPPY VALENTINE DAY TO ME”
is what you too should say today…
We all need a space for ourselves to feel safe, nourished and creative.
One great way to take care of yourself is to create a space in your home that is nourishing to your heart, mind and soul.
One of my word for this part of the year is:
Self-Love is also know as self-care.
Self -care is about taking care of ourselves on a regular basis so we can be at our best when helping/ serving / working with others.
It can be anything: cooking / journaling / hiking / reading / knitting/ painting / singing / praying. But also having a manicure / a massage / a coffee with a good friend / But it has to happen on a regular basis. I like using an “app” called “Teuxdeux” to schedule (and remind me) those precious Me-Time during my week. It is very interesting to see how Me time moments can be squished or even brutally crushed under more important tasks like “grocery shopping”, picking up dry cleaning or returning books to the library.
As Marie Forleo says it over and over: when it is not scheduled, it is not happening.
And that works also with Self-Love.
While self-help books all advise building self-love in order to be happy, a surprisingly low number of people truly love themselves. The good news is it’s never too late to begin to love you.
An excellent way to begin to love yourself is to do something loving for you.
When you treat yourself with kindness, it makes you feel good.
The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness.
Each loving act, however big or small, is a brick in the foundation of self-love.
Here are some jewels gathered from books and online articles.
From me to you.
Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU!
Self-love involves the following:
- Self-care.Self-care means you treat yourself just as kindly and thoughtfully as you would anyone else. If you are uncomfortable doing something, then you don’t do it and that’s OK. Just because somebody might be disappointed that you didn’t help him or her, that’s his or her choice to feel that way.
- Considering your needs.If that means others don’t get all of you, all the time, then that’s also OK. People can learn to adjust and be responsible for themselves.
- Caring for yourself with the same level of effort that you do for others.That might mean you don’t always fulfill your goal of helping others because you’d prefer to spend time doing something for yourself. That’s not selfish.
- Accepting yourself for all that you are — both your positive aspects and your human fallibility.You cannot be all good all the time. That’s OK. You can work on self-improvement, but that doesn’t mean you discount the parts of yourself you don’t like as much. Those aspects are still part of your whole.
- Saying no to others’ requests.That’s OK. You are not totally responsible for everybody else’s needs.
Working toward self-love and acceptance can take time. If you are somebody who has little regard for yourself, then you might want to start with self-like-a-little, working up to self-like. In time, you’ll learn to self-love and accept yourself for all that you are.
The following is my personal “playlist” (from books / quotes / mentors ) to remind me of the baby steps that I need to take every time I realize that I am out of synch with joy / connection / gratitude.
I know that I need to find my way back to MY SOURCE.
1 Nurture yourself.
Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture yourself spiritually by doing meditation.
2 Treat others with love and respect.
Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually, you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude.
3 Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness.
Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways, or make a small donation to a needy person or an unfortunate child.
4 Express yourself: Create art
Surround yourself with meaningful words or picture that will lift your mood.
You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!
Thrive on creativity. We are all remarkably creative, but our originality may be stunted by external factors. For example, your job may not allow you to express your true ingenuity. Our imagination allows us to manifest our most brilliant ideas to life if only we can open the inventive doors inside. Incorporate your creative tendencies into everyday life, from the way you dress, speak, decorate your home, etc. Expand your creative potential to reach its peak in time.
5 Learn to let go of past events.
You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.
6 Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day.
“I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself. Read them out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them.
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7 Try to look past “material” objects and feelings
We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with, etc. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion, or simply a motive? Sometimes it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.
8 Don’t define yourself by what you’ve done.
Celebrate your accomplishments, but let go of the things you haven’t done…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (towards the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.
9 Be who you really are.
Express yourself, laugh, play, or sing. Be crazy. Don’t be afraid of what others think. They feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it, too.
10 Trust yourself.
Don’t just follow other people’s suggestions blindly. Learn to trust who you really are.
11 Think of five positive words that describe you.
Try not to use words like ‘pretty’ and ‘nice’. Aim for a nice variety. Take your time and dig deep.
Mine could be:
caring / inventive / reliable /initiator /communicative.
12 Practice receiving love. To truly love is to be able to receive it.
When someone loves you, does some kind deeds to you, says kind words, gives you gifts, or gives you compliments, embrace it.
Allow yourself to feel the love that has come your way. Know that you are worthy of love.
13 Do what you love.
Make yourself happy.
What do you love to do?
If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result, you become happier and more loving. Do something you love each day.
When was the last time you did something you truly loved? Our ambition is admirable, but our lives have become so busy that we often dismiss simple pleasures to take care of business. Whether it’s a hobby, talent, or special craft, take thirty minutes out of your day, each day, to practice what nourishes your soul.
Everything can wait while you indulge in your beloved self @unlieusurterre ( and yes, it is a “tweetable”)
14 Stop comparing yourself to others.
Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous. A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love. No one is quite like you. Just be you. Be grateful for being the wonderful you. Do the best you can. Be the best you can and love yourself more. Then, you have more love to give to others.
Recognizing your strongest traits endows you with deep knowledge of the self, a precious tool you can use to cultivate your best assets. Understand what are your shining qualities and showcase them with beaming confidence. Once you acknowledge your strengths, you can raise your standards in all elements of life. The moment you begin to believe that you deserve better is the moment you receive better.
Celebrate your worth. It’s easy to become distracted by potential achievements and neglect past accomplishments. Celebrate your personal triumphs, both big and small, and let every former victory be a fervent reminder that future wins await, too. Don’t be afraid to raise your glass and toast to that amazing person who’s conquered their every challenge: you.
15 Stop trying to be perfect.
Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect. Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is not failure. Just follow all the steps above, and don’t let anyone’s expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.
16 Forgive yourself.
Every one of us makes mistakes — in relationships, finances, personal decisions, and so on. Mistakes can be costly reminders to think before we act, but they are also encompassed by greater lessons. Remembering this can help us forgive our former failures and discern their higher purpose. When we forgive ourselves for our shortcomings we can redirect our attention to new efforts that produce new results.
17 Put yourself first.
There lies beauty in sacrifice. But when you constantly put yourself second, you set up an inevitable pattern of behavior. In time, you settle for second place in more than one area of life. Reevaluate what it means to put yourself first: engaging in your interests, pursuing your ambitions, and ensuring your well-being. Practice this mantra in all difficult situations: If it doesn’t bring me good, it isn’t worth my effort.
Extending too much love to others can leave us lacking in love for ourselves. We must walk the fine line of attending to others and tending to ourselves, all the while never falling second to the needs of another. Because to love ourselves is to know ourselves, and to know ourselves is to recognize the full spectrum of our powers.
Cut out all negative influences. Make a list of the people in your life who have no place being there. You know who they are — those who drain you physically, emotionally, or mentally, who take advantage of you or cause you any form of stagnation. Literally cut your list in half and let this be reflective of the way in which you will trim away these negative influences in real life.
18 Say I love you.
Speak it to yourself every morning; look in a mirror and say “I love you” in a loud voice. We automatically critique, blame, and fault ourselves for nearly everything, rarely acknowledging the things we do well or those we ought to be proud of. Show yourself daily doses of well-deserved appreciation.
Release love to yourself. We hoard our abundant love of the self within us, as if waiting to release it to the right person. In reality this love was meant to be released only to ourselves. Allow your self-love to flow freely by eliminating criticisms, insecurities, and doubts. The attention you should show another person is secondary to the attention you should show yourself. Why wait for someone else to love you when you can love yourself first?
⩔SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔
Time to re-frame your thinking about Valentine’s Day :
- Make a “Happy Bubble List” : what would you love to do this week.
- Schedule it. Share about it. When you share about it: it becomes real and people will help you remembering with their friendly natural questions (How is your Happy Bubble List going?)
- Learn to drop the “should” and “must”
- Enjoy the feeling of being more aligned with yourself
⩔SHARING IS CARING⩔
And I will always try to make it easy to do it for you!
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